The popularity of meditation is increasing as more people discover its benefits. Meditation is a habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts. What the secret is in meditation is to not follow a thought but rather just watch it float by like a cloud. Easier said than done.
Many people think of it as a way to reduce stress and develop concentration. This is true for most of us practicing quiet time or meditation. I like to refer my meditation time to quiet time where I am quietening my mind and bringing about calm and a calm mind through the transformation of having no thoughts, even empty thoughts. Thoughts that have no meaning or needing to be followed, random thoughts coming and going but having no real affect on my mind.
Meditation is not for everyone, if your suffer from all the noise and the conditioning we have been subjected too then you will struggled with sitting there in silence and just your thoughts.
In the beginning I could not sit still and listen to my thoughts. I kept thinking I need to be doing something (I felt guilty or lazy because I was not doing something) this is part of my conditioning and upbringing. This takes time to be at ease with yourself and that it's ok to be still and just be sitting there.
To learn to meditate takes time and practice. Within the first 3 months I thought there is something wrong with me because I just could not do it. I researched people who provide guided meditations and started listening to them. Another way that helped me to relax and switch my mind off was watching a candle flame. They relaxing feeling that comes with a candle is mesmerising and very helpful for people who have too much noise going on in their minds
- Sit or lie comfortably. You may even want to invest in a meditation chair or cushion.
- Watch the flame and just focus on the beautiful glow, how it dancers in the wind and the aroma that soothes your soul.
- Make no effort to control your breath; simply breathe naturally.
- Focus your attention on the breath and on how the body moves with each inhalation and exhalation.
Start off with just a minute a day and build from there especially if you struggle to calm your mind. It takes practice and time but do not give up. I consistently practice for one minute a day and my ability to focus and calm my mind grew from this process and now I enjoy my quiet time and calm mind.